Transformative Divorce Mediation is a process by which two people face and explore their conflicts, hurts and misunderstandings, to come out on the other end with a new appreciation of the role conflict played in their relationship.
Through listening, re-framing, sharing and deeply experiencing and acknowledging the conflict, it is a mindful process through which couples can bring their relationship to completion and then receive support in transitioning into a new relationship as co-parents, or, when there are no kids, bring closure to the relationship altogether. This can also look like the creation of an altogether new non-traditional relationship.
My Intention for You:
My goal is to diffuse the adversarial nature of conflict and divorce. I support couples in accessing the mindful, creative parts of the brain to come up with mutually acceptable agreements. These agreements can include the uncoupling of finances, designing a parenting plan, child support and custody, and other agreements. This process empowers you and your spouse/partner to be the decision makers regarding your future, your finances and your children. You can also gain valuable conflict resolution skills that will support you in your future relationship as co-parents.
You don’t have to agree with someone’s point of view, to come into agreement with the person.
How to Initiate Mediation:
When couples are divorcing, it can be difficult to have a productive conversation. Here are some ways to get your partner talking about mediation:
- “I want to separate with respect and love so that we can develop our relationship as co-parents for our children. Mediation will allow us to do this if we are willing.”
- “We are divorcing because we don’t have the same values or the same goals for the future. Though we haven’t been able to resolve our conflicts well in the past, perhaps now we have an opportunity to do this through mediation.”
- “I don’t want to fight in court, and I don’t want someone else making decisions for me. Please come with me to find out what mediation is all about and how this process can serve us in our divorce.”